How Can I Be Successful?

by Dennis Perry on October 17, 2011

I have enjoyed a healthy amount of success in my life.  I am often asked “How can I become successful?”  My answer…it is simple.  All it takes is a great deal of hard work and dedication.

I feel like I work pretty hard.  By profession, I am an Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeon with a very busy 3-Doc practice of which I am the Managing Partner.  I see patients at least 32-36 hours per week and then have 10 to 15 hours for management responsibilities.

In addition to that I am working to build a business in a totally unrelated field; teaching, writing, speaking, coaching, and mentoring in the fields of Personal Finance, Personal Development, and Life Balance.  Right now, I am spending about 20+ hours per week in activities directly related to this and it still isn’t enough.

From the outside looking in, it would appear that I lead a pretty cushy life with a lot of the nice trappings of success.  And I do.  But it was and is not without tremendous sacrifice and hard work.

Time To Recharge!

For the past 9 days, I have been on a trip with my wife who is my true Soul Mate and Life Partner.  She has sacrificed much as I have worked to grow the practice and now to develop and grow this new service business.

Periodically, I have to stop what I am doing and dedicate some time to her and to the continued development and growth or our relationship.  This past week or so was just that.

We took some time away and went toEast Tennesseeto work on ourselves and our relationship.  The weather was beautiful and the fall colors were in full show; red, yellow, orange.

It was a necessary trip taken to recharge not only my batteries but also our recently neglected relationship.  I feel that family is my highest value and it was time to show that.

I am refreshed and ready to get back to work.

Most of Sunday was spent out on the boat.  It was 78 degrees and not a cloud in the sky.  We went to one of our favorite spots on the lake with a cooler full of fruit, cheese, crackers, water, and, OK, an adult beverage or two.

We simply drifted, talked, held hands, planned for our future, and took in the beautiful sites and sounds of a fall in the Tennessee mountains.  To be honest, I really needed that.

Then, we come back to our home and I go online to read to Dr. Kevin Hogan’s blog post about the death of Mesha Casper.

The Lesson Learned!

I didn’t know her and never met her.  Although I, too, have participated in a few of Dr. Hogan’s excellent courses, I was not in any at the same time as Mesha.

I read of her long battle with poor health; one that she lost this weekend.  I read of her “Never say Never” attitude and her consistency in getting assignments done even when facing hospitalizations and brushes with death.

It made me start thinking.  How was she able to accomplish so much while facing such seemingly insurmountable obstacles?  The answer, she had a HUGE why!

In a recent series of blog articles, Rob Malone wrote about discovering your passions and then used that to develop a business.  Among the steps was getting very clear on the “why” you want to do something.

When that “why is large enough and powerful enough, and drives you forward each day then no obstacle is too large to overcome.  No is simply not an acceptable answer.

Mesha had that big of a “why”.  It drove her forward each day and resulted in a legacy of recordings both audio and video to share with her family and the world.  Even though she won’t be here to see the fruits of her labor, the rest of the world will long benefit from her having been here.

Isn’t that the real reason we work so hard and strive to do great things?  Don’t we all really want to leave this world a better place than we found it?  I am not sure that everyone feels this way but I believe and I hope that the majority of world’s population does.

In another very good blog article recently, Michael Walker talked about the book Evil Plans by Hugh MacLeod.  Without Michael’s formal permission but I suspect he won’t mind, I am copying a segment of his post here.  This is an excerpt from Hugh MacLeod’s book.  Please click here to read Michael’s entire article.  It is well worth your time to do so.   Here is the segment:

Welcome to the Hunger

It will cost you your life.

The Hunger to do something creative.

The Hunger to do something amazing.

The Hunger to change the world.

The Hunger to make a difference.

The Hunger to enjoy one’s work.

The Hunger to be able to look back and say, Yeah, cool, I did that.

The Hunger to make the most of this utterly brief blip of time Creation has given us.

The Hunger to dream the good dreams.

The Hunger to have amazing people in our lives.

The Hunger to have the synapses continually firing on overdrive.

The Hunger to experience beauty.

The Hunger to tell the truth.

The Hunger to be part of something bigger than yourself.

The Hunger to have good stories to tell.

The Hunger to stay the course, despite the odds.

The Hunger to feel passion.

The Hunger to know and express Love.

The Hunger to know and express Joy.

The Hunger to channel the Divine.

The Hunger to actually feel alive.

The Hunger will give you everything. And it will take from you, everything. It will cost you your life, and there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.

But knowing this, of course, is what ultimately sets you free.


When all is said and done, it is this hunger that Mr. MacLeod speaks of that will drive you to succeed. 

If your why is big enough, maybe you don’t need that time for recharging right now.  Maybe just a bit more effort will be enough to push you over the top where you can have all the rest and relaxation time you desire.

I do believe in balance in one’s life.  I am definitely not an “all work and no play” kind of guy. 

But, I have received some motivation from Mesha’s story.  And, I have re-examined my “why” and found that it is big enough and motivational enough to make me move forward at an ever increasing pace.

My time is now.  Is yours?  If not now, when?

Don’t wait another day.  If Mesha can work through such overwhelming odds to create a legacy as she faced her inevitable and rapidly approaching death, can’t you and I overcome our obstacles as well?

I hope this article serves you well.  I expect to see you at the top.

Make this a great day and make your life truly rich in every way!



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Alex Arshavskiy October 20, 2011 at 8:49 pm

I like your article! Really inspirational!
A person with hunger for success and ability to balance his life can be very successful.

After 40 Dating Expert for Women October 19, 2011 at 12:54 pm

Hi Wealth Doctor,

I like how you tie Mesha’s hard work ethic into her motivation. Indeed, she had a very big WHY to strive to accomplish all that she did. She was a very kind and loving lady with wonderful family love relationships. I think especially with her dear husband and her son.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell
Christian Dating Expert

Sonya Lenzo October 18, 2011 at 12:54 pm

Sometimes, rarely, I want to share a post from this class with everyone I know.I am not much for the usual sharing of jokes, etc on the Internet. But this is one that I think everyone would be blessed to read.Would you mind if I shared it with friends and family?
Sonya Lenzo

Dennis Perry October 18, 2011 at 1:58 pm

I would be honored if you shared the post and thank you for your very kind remarks.

John Moulder October 18, 2011 at 7:51 am

Dennis , that was a powerful post . I simply don’t see how you achieve so much in a day . I am in the position of establishing a relationship , and I find it not easy with the meager hours I work , plus this course , which sucks the time out of you . Well done .

Reading body language of men flirting October 18, 2011 at 5:45 am

Dennis, How would you define success? Do you find that people go looking for something when they say they want to be successful that they do not really understand?
Scott Sylvan Bell
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Andrew Miner October 18, 2011 at 1:33 am

Dennis, this was supremely motivating. If a wonderful woman who is nearing death can power through obstacles, then none of us have any excuses. Thanks for sharing.


Clare Delaney October 17, 2011 at 11:15 pm

A most inspirational post Dennis, taking many sources and making it into a unified, motivational article. Thanks!

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Neil Dhawan October 17, 2011 at 11:14 pm


This article was emotionally moving and motivationally inspiring. Thank you for sharing the lessons you took from the passing of Mesha. You are a great inspiration, as well. Working your practice, working to build a bigger dream and still taking time to work on your relationship. Simply … Awesome!

Stay Amazing and Do Great Things, Neil
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Michael Paulse October 17, 2011 at 10:09 pm

A very inspiring post. Thanks for the partial reprint of Michael Walker’s post. The book Evil Plans by Hugh MacLeod: that segment is a wonderful passage.

Tidy up everyone.

Cherie Miranda October 17, 2011 at 8:58 pm


This was an amazing post. I hardly know what to say other than I am moved and inspired. You are an excellent role model. Thanks for the article. I’m glad you took some time for yourself and your wife. What could be more important than that?

Cherie Miranda
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Body Language October 17, 2011 at 6:22 pm

Mesha’s death is extremly sad, she will be remembered.

Don’t we all need more hours in a day?

Mark Hogan

Eva Palmer October 17, 2011 at 5:31 pm

Hi Dennis!
I have enjoyed very much reading your post. How you see life and personal relationships and also the tribute to Mesha.
Thanks for the inspiration and the reminding of asking ourselves for the WHY…

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Kevin Bettencourt October 17, 2011 at 4:13 pm

Your closing statement is fantastic. I love make it a great day.

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Michael D Walker October 17, 2011 at 3:13 pm

Hi Dennis,
Thanks for the kind mention of my blog post about Hugh MacLeod. You’ve done a wonderful job sharing the lesson you’ve learned from Mesha’s passing. Glad to hear you took some time to spend with your wife. Too many of us don’t stop to appreciate and share our success with those who we hold dear.

Hugh MacLeod

Annie Born October 17, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Dennis – A Truly Inspirational story!
Why? It is enough!
Looking forward to tomorrow!
Create a great day!
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Rob Malone October 17, 2011 at 11:36 am

Mesha’s story was truly an inspiration. I do agree with your “if not now then when”.

I know that a lot of people when asked to do something have a “why me?” attitude and they want to sit on the sidelines and let someone else do it. I have a saying that I tell myslef everyday “why not me?” Chose to live today.

Thanks for the mention in your post.

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